Clients and potential clients come to me at what may be the worst time of their lives - they may be losing a spouse, custody of children, a home or monetary support. A spouse who was open and honest becomes tight-lipped. Children who were happy, healthy, good students become ill-mannered and their grades slide downward. A formerly upper middle class lifestyle goes south. Fear and frustration run amok. Is it any wonder people in these situations feel as if they are going crazy?
Recently I took some time off to be with my family. With all of the hoopla about the Mayan calendar and December 21, I had a chance to think about the prospect of the end of the world as we know it. Although thankfully the world didn't end, I was grateful to be with the people I care about the most. A divorce can mean the end of the world to many people; it can feel like the end of their hopes, dreams, love and life. Research has shown that divorce is the second most stressful event in our lives, with death being the most stressful. So how can we move on and not be paralyzed by it?