Litigation Sucks. No, Really It Does.
Nobody enjoys litigation. Well almost nobody. It drains you of your money, your time and eventually if prolonged and nasty enough, your soul. In the family law arena, it is absolutely the worst way to achieve your goals. Unless your goal is to destroy your former partner, your family and possibly yourself. If that's true, then you have serious problems and I am not the attorney to help you.
But wait, you say....I have to file this motion in response to his petition....I have to ask for absolutely everything even if it sounds ridiculous and I don't really want it...I have to say no when she asks me for additional time with my kids, just because she's my ex....ummm no, you don't. You don't have to do any of that. You and/or your attorney may choose to do that. Protecting yourself, exercising your rights/getting everything in writing is important and I recommend that everyone do it; your lawyer will tell you what to do to protect yourself and/or your children. You do not, however, have to operate "scorched-earth" style. You convince yourself it's the right thing to do. But for whom? Your kids, who love both of you and see or hear that you are fighting Mom in court all of the time? For yourself, when your attorney has told you your chances of winning on this issue are slim, yet somehow you think your facts are so compelling that the Judge will have to see it your way? Or are you afraid of what family, friends and co-workers will say when you tell them what you did or didn't do. They will regale you with stories of their family, friends and co-workers who did something else that worked for them. Each family (and each divorce, custody or support case) has its own peculiar facts and circumstances. What worked for your neighbor may not work for you, at all, and could even be harmful in your case.
Therefore, I urge you to think twice (or three or four times) before filing that next petition, or sending that nasty letter or email. Who will it benefit? Protect yourself completely, but don't wreck yourself in the process.