Sometimes we get into discussions, conflicts and even fights with individuals whom we deal with, especially those individuals we see or interact with every day. It would be rare not to. All of that closeness, day after day, eventually you will disagree with him or her (or them) about something. Then what? After the blow up, you still have to interact with that person regularly. Unless you resolve it, it will continue to be an uncomfortable, tense environment. Now take that a step further and apply it to your close family/household members. It will be absolutely impossible not to have conflict with them during your live(s). The question is not if but when. Imagine that you are experiencing a divorce or custody matter. Just by its very existence, the divorce or custody issue can be a conflict. A bomb waiting for its opportunity to explode.
I'm now going to ask you to do something uncomfortable, bordering on the impossible for some of you. I want you to imagine that you are the other person in the conflict. Yes, you can do it. If you're Mom, pretend to be Dad for a minute. If you're Husband, imagine that you are Wife. Pretend that you are experiencing the conflict from their perspective. If you worked diligently all day at your office dealing with irate clients and impossible supervisors, imagine what it's like to be home all day with screaming children, a phone that rings non-stop with telemarketers or a house that never looks spotless despite constant cleaning and straightening up. If nothing else, this exercise helps you to be a more sympathetic, open minded person who is more likely to compromise. When you compromise, the other party will look favorably upon you because you have considered their viewpoint and found it to be somewhat valid.
It's possible that some of you can and will do this regularly but your partner does not. It is extremely difficult to be open minded and sympathetic when you believe the sentiment is not returned. I'm asking you to do it anyway. Be the best person you can be. Find a good counselor or therapist if you do not already have one. A divorce can be one of the most stressful events in your life.