I recently read an article which quoted actor Alex Baldwin and his infamous custody battle with Kim Basinger. Alex said that he felt that Kim was using a form of parental alienation to gain an edge in court. Many agree that custody litigation is particularly brutal: the goal seems to be to make the other side look as bad as possible.
The language that we use when describing custody can help or hurt. For instance, just by using the words "custody" or "visitation", we set ourselves up for all or nothing because one must "win" or "lose" custody. However, those terms may not legally mean what we think they mean.
For my part, I encourage my clients to use terms such as time sharing or parenting plan/ time. Sometimes it is not even necessary to memorialize the percentage of time shared; this may only be an issue with child support calculations or income tax returns. The most important thing to remember is, the definitions have changed in PA's new custody statute and your best bet is to consult with a family law attorney for guidance.